110 W96th St Suite 1D, New York, NY 10025 (Tuesdays & Fridays) - Call: (347) 631 8350
Virtual Therapy throughout New York and In Person Therapy on the Upper West Side, NYC.
110 W96th St Suite 2B, New York, NY 10025 (Tuesdays & Fridays)
Call: (347) 631 8350 — Virtual and In Person Therapy in NY
Are you struggling with figuring out if you should save your relationship?
Do you feel like your soul left your body after the breakup?
Perhaps you are trying to understand the breakup, and trying to move on?
You may ask yourself why this keeps happening to me. What is wrong? It doesn’t make sense. The ending of a relationship from breakup or rejection is the best time for counseling because you will question yourself on dating, future relationships, and the opposite sex. It is the beginning of transformation and healing. I am here to guide you through a positive transition. We can let go of the ending of a relationship and we can grow and embrace that which is coming.
Whether it is through a breakup, divorce, or death. It feels like a loss because it is. It is the loss of a relationship, your heart feels like it is breaking, and you feel your heart exploding from the pain. You may even panic or have trouble breathing. You probably cannot stop crying and stop thinking about your ex. You may try to replay the memories over and over again to understand what happened.
That’s often because there are the five stages of grief that you have to work through. The five stages are denial, depression, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You may feel those five stages in no order and not ever reach acceptance. Residual trauma from previous toxic relationships can also affect your current relationships. Together, we can free you to find the love you want.
Through breakup counseling, I can help you understand what happened. I can show you why this always happens to you and why you did not see it coming. Together we can uncover a different perspective and identify what’s going on in your ex’s state of mind. I can provide insight into interpreting their emotions. After a breakup, you might blame yourself but I will help you see that the small things did not matter anyway.
My experience understanding and handling breakups, especially those you do not want to happen made me realize that men and women are very different. It baffles me how little men and women know about each other. It also surprises me that there is not much good dating advice for single people. Times have changed and you cannot rely on your parents for dating advice or married friends. It is my hope through providing counseling for relationship problems and therapy after a breakup, I can help you increase your chance in finding love.
You have no control over a breakup if you were dumped or rejected. The only thing you can do is learn how to respond and handle post-breakup. Together, I will walk you through what to do if your ex contacts you, or what to do if your ex wants another chance. My role will be to help you navigate post breakup such as deciding whether to keep contact or no contact, and remaining friends.
At the moment, you might be ready to date again and dip your toes in the water but want some guidance. Therapy is a chance to reflect and put the breakup in perspective and reframe the future so you can date again.
Therapy for relationship issues and breakups is about digging under the surface. I want to help you learn about your attachment style (secure, insecure, avoidant, etc.) and identify the core beliefs that show up in your relationships and dating life, such as a faulty mindset (“no one will ever love me” or “I don’t deserve to be love”).
Oftentimes, these beliefs can be traced back to your first love and your relationship with your caregivers. Maybe your early childhood relationships made you believe you are not enough or you do not deserve respect, time, and attention. Maybe you had abusive relationships with your caregivers or abandonment that leads to you replicating it in your romantic relationships. Together, we can unravel these core beliefs and help you step it up in dating!
My approach to relationship therapy involves a mix of psychoanalysis and cognitive behavioral therapy. I use psychoanalysis to help you gain insight and understand the opposite sex and challenge patterns from the childhood experiences that may hold you back from finding the love you want. Cognitive behavioral therapy coaches you and provides you with direct action to achieve your goals in dating and relationships.
I also have a no-bullshit approach and provide some direct exercises and challenges for you to complete through the week. Emotional honesty is being accountable to yourself in moving forward with transformation.
Relationship counseling depends on how long the relationship was, what your goals are in therapy, and how deeply impacted you were by it. On average it takes about 10-14 sessions to start feeling relief and a difference.
Yes, most of my clients go to therapy for emotional growth and to help them overcome their fears. Through our sessions, you will find yourself changing slowly and steering the boat in the direction that feels right to you.
From my personal experience, therapy has helped me with dating and also other friends. I’ve seen growth and transformation in my clients. It is more fun to try. Building rich, strong and secure relationships is a skill you can learn and master!
I offer 2 to 3 times a week sessions if needed during a crisis or for deeper work especially during life transition phases that provide you more time to be reflective or slower times such as summer. Most clients do it once a week with me. Some start twice a week with me in the beginning to accelerate change or get more support. I do not offer twice a month or once or once a month, or drop-ins because I find that twice a month and once a month to be not effective for the style of therapy I work in. It is hard to build a relationship and see deep transformative change with less frequency of sessions.
TIps on how to heal and deal with avoidant attachment style in dating and relationships.
Tips for people who have anxious attachment in dating.
I talk about how scarcity mindset shows up in dating and why abundance mindset is sexy. I compare dating to eating dim sum and also talk about why Ji A from Singles Inferno is so attractive to men.
Fun dating challenge, making your imago exercise. 10-15 minutes
There is a lot of pressure to get married, to have children, and to create the white picket fence life. You begin to feel like your dating pool is shrinking, and as you age, you may start to feel like you’ll be single forever. Society definitely doesn’t help on the anxiety front.
If you’re here and reading this, odds are you have found yourself in a relationship with a narcissistic person. If you’ve found yourself in multiple relationships with a narcissist, you’re probably wondering why you keep attracting this type of person. The truth is, there have likely been warning signs along the way that you missed.