1. Why aren't singles dating?

I can only speak for New York as a therapist that specializes in dating and relationship issues in Upper West Side, Singles aren't dating because they are jaded and burnout with dating apps. The return on investment is not high for single men and single women who are average looking with average (less than 100K) salary, as dating apps, looks matter, and also profession matters. If you look around New York City, there are a lot of attractive singles that make 100K+ salary but they are not dating, but don't let that fool you, a lot of them are not looking for serious relationships or ready to date. There's also the problem of too many choices, back in the day, my grandmother and grandfather would just marry the next village and be married, however because there's more choices in New York City, there's a fear that you are settling, what if there's someone better, also people have become more superficial, and skeptical and picky because of choices and bad experiences (catfishing, already married, situationships, ghosting). The dating apps have made people demoralized and dehumanized and traumatized.  

2. Why aren't singles in pursuit of romance? (in the first paragraph)

3. How much is the average date? How has it drastically changed?

An average date would cost minimum $25 if you go for coffee, but that sometimes won't work because some (woman) singles would expect at least a dinner, so $100-$150 range because getting beautified and ready for a date takes 2-3 hours and going into the city, so people will be hungry and if the coffee date goes well, they will head to lunch or dinner.

4. What are dating expectations? New Yorkers also move fast, people have sex on the 1-2 dates, and if they are not interested, people move on, because New Yorkers are busy and there are too many choices and convenience in the city.

5. Has Netflix and Chill become the new dating method? No, not really, unless the person really likes that person, or they are very attractive, its low a low-hanging fruit method and most singles would expect more eventually, like a proper date (dinner, movies, activities)

6. What will the future of dating look like? I predict more in real life, matchmaking, friends (mutual friends, more vetted), and in real life mixers, networking events, and more selective because people are skeptical and scared.

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