Why is there a renewed interest in speed dating lately?
People are tired of dating apps because its so time consuming, one of my client calculated it took 4 to 6 hours to get a one date set up, there's also risk of being catfished and scammed as well. There is a trend I've been noticing as a therapist that work with singles who struggle with dating, people are burnt out from the dating apps and looking for IRL (In Real Life) in person connections. I think covid pandemic also change people's brains, people are more lonely and socially isolated, and want social interactions/and be connected in a intimate close way. Speed dating can be a solution in the middle of people who don't have time (busy lives) and also meet someone in person. There's studies to show that, you can know from 10 to 15 seconds if the other person have chemistry with you intuitively.
What are the pros and cons of speed dating?
Pros to speed dating is that its fast and if you don't like someone you can move on very quickly as people have busy lives. Also it is in person, so they are vouched and vetted more, safety for woman and also you can meet a volume of men and women.
Cons - Its not free, and also can feel awkward and socially intimidating if you are an introvert or have social anxiety, and also usually more women show up than men in these events, so you end up leaving the event with a female friend and a drink.
- How does speed dating compare to online dating in terms of connection and chemistry?
Speed dating can be better compare to online dating in terms of connections and chemistry because it is in real life.
- What makes a great first impression in a speed dating setting?
-a person's smile, welcoming and approachable (for women), lighter, pastel colors such as pink, yellow, green
-dress/outfit, good hygiene (make sure your breath don't stink, or hair is oily) , clean, no bad smell (for men), button down shirt with fun prints can make easy conversation and show that you are fun and easy to talk to
-shaking your hand, good handshake, good eye contact (show interest)
- How should someone prepare for their first speed dating event?
prepare an outfit, and also a list of open ended questions and just have fun!
- Are there any common mistakes people make during speed dating?
One of the common mistakes is that people talk too much and not ask questions, it shows you are not curious or interested in the other person.
- Can people genuinely find real connection or love through speed dating?
I can people can genuinely find real connection or love through speed dating but not to have high expectation, and come to it with a open heart and curiousity and interest in people, don't give yourself too much pressure.
- What kind of people tend to thrive in a speed dating environment?
People who are natural networkers, social butterflies, and also great conversationalists (extroverts do very well too).
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